Wednesday, August 18, 2010

How Do I Get Her Back?

Hi,











So, I've been seeing this older woman. I'm 22, she's 40.





She's pretty crazy. We've seen each other for 3 months.





However, last Friday, we broke up. Not in a friendly way either.





Little background information; She's 40, already has a boyfriend who's her age (known this the whole time), she's a ';Call Girl';, and involved with at least 2 other men, intimately. She lives behind my apartment, the next street over...





In the past, I've shown up to her place unexpected when we have fought. She's been upset when I do this, but at the same time, has taken me inside to talk...in other words, she's put up with it. There was even an instance when I climbed her porch balcony, and knocked on her bedroom window at 3 in the morning, to talk to her. She was extremely angry, and threatened the police, so I left...however, she called me 30 minutes later to talk, and we still continued to see each other.





She's manipulative, she lies, she plays men, and uses them.





Back to this last Friday...Thursday night, we had hung out and watched a movie at her house, and we spoke about our issues in the relationship, and what I needed to do to make things better, and left it on that note. She said she wasn't sure if she wanted to see me this weekend, etc.





So Friday night, I drove by and I saw a man in her bedroom...later on, I decided to go over there, (about 3 hours later) and I hopped the parking lot gate to get in. She was waiting in her car, for whatever reason when I hopped it, and she was again, mad at me for doing this. Then, I told her I thought she had been escorting again, and she got really mad and told me to leave. 30 minutes later after that, she called me, cursed me out, threatened the police, restraining order, and told me never to call her, and that we are over. So, after that...I wrote her an e-mail, telling her I am going to give her her space, and I will not ever talk to her again, or call her, and will be leaving her to her business. I told her I don't want to be in a relationship anymore, and it's over.











Now...I'm not sure what to do. I miss her, and I've given her space and time since last Friday...haven't reached out at all, and she hasn't. Some of my friends moms who know the situation, and are older than this woman, say she will reach out to me in about a week and a half, because she ';loves the drama';...





I'm trying to figure out how to approach this. I like this woman, but I know if I call her right now, it may not go too good.





I'm moving Friday, and I want to give her back her things she let me borrow (army cott, and some bedding), and leave her a text after I drop it off, letting her know it's there...That would be a good way to open lines of communication, I think...It's hard because of the e-mail I sent.











How do I get her back?How Do I Get Her Back?
Why Do yhuu Want Her back ????





It's Hard To Furrget Sumone you really want.


(im in the process of doing so)





I wrote a letter to my gf that i loved deeply but i couldn't take her shytt anymore so i told her how i felt. A few days later i realized how much i miss her %26amp;%26amp; want her back but i then thought '; i need to stay strong %26amp;%26amp; not give in';


She finally calls me a week later telling me she still loves me %26amp;%26amp; that she cares but i try so hard not to belive her.





I think you should do the same. STAY STRONG!!


You Should go leave yer stuf on her porch with a letter inside explaining how you feel %26amp;%26amp; how yer leaving.How Do I Get Her Back?
Aww... You must really like her. She doesn't seem to be very nice and as you said, uses people. While I'm not sure what you should do to get here back, I feel like you shouldn't. You seem caring and sensitive, and you deserve less drama and a new relationship. She is messing with people and even if she stops, she'll always return back to more drama. This sounds harsh but I really don't think you would want to go back to her. In the long run, you'll get hurt even more. =[





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