How do i get rid of an ARIES MAN?!?

He pretty much stalks me, I know he loves it because it might seem like i am ';playing hard to get'; but I really want him away from me. He never ceases calling or texting and he tells people we did stuff with eachother this guy is very immature and talks crap on everyone. I can't stand this and everyone has warned me about him which makes me stay farther away. I blew up and cursed him out ';I DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP! I DONT LIKE ANYONE'; he dosen't give up, I want him to find someone else and leave me alone, I'd really hate for it to end ';messy'; because we go to the same school and i see him everywhere not to mention he is a loudmouth and will give me a bad reputation. Is there a gentle way to let them go? It'd be nice if we were still on a friendly basisHow do i get rid of an ARIES MAN?!?
Hi, first please be calm about this whole situation. You didn't mention if you two dated or had a relationship. If yes to both, then for how long and what type of relationship was it, like casual or committed one? Your past relationship or lack thereof with him makes a difference as to how you should deal with this situation.





If he is someone you never dated and he is just after you, then you could simply try to politely talk to him and express that unfortunately you just don't feel the same. And if he doesn't get that message, then get your parents involved to help you with this matter.





But if you once dated him and had a romantic relationship with him, then please deal with him gently in letting him down. If you no longer like him for whatever reason, then evaluate that reason and see if you both could work it out. If you just don't have any feelings for him and nothing can be worked out between you two from your side, then try to find out why he likes you so much and what could you do to help him understand why you don't feel the same. But to do this, you need to be calm, mature and understanding that he got a thing for you so it isn't easy for him to learn that you don't feel the same. Liking or loving someone isn't wrong. If you behave meanly, coldly, harshly or incompassionately towards his sincere feelings, then he can't be feeling good inside. Nobody likes being rejected or mistreated by one he or she likes or loves.





Don't take any drastic steps, like calling him names, putting him down, and talking bad about him to everyone to make him angry. Instead, see if you could invite him to a very public place like a cafe at a local mall or your home even when your parents are there. Share a coke or coffee with him and talk things over and ';hear him'; as well as politely tell him that you just don't feel the same towards him and love can't be forced unfortunately.





Tell him clearly that he can't mistake your kindness as your liking or love for him. I think that by being mean to him, you are just fueling him and that sometime could back fire. Not everyone takes a ';no'; easily, so first try a nice approach to make him understand where you stand. In talking to him don't make him look bad or criticize him. Mainly just project that you are two different people and it won't work out so it is better to stay friends and not involve in a romantic relationship.





If after nice approach and a lot of communication, which is the key to solving most problems, it doesn't work then try to sit your parents down and explain the situation with him to them and seek their advice. But be very truthful about your position in this with that guy and don't hide the extent of your relationship with him to ';undermine'; your role in first leading him on, if that is what you did, and then pushing him away, for what reason(s). People can only help you better, if you just be honest about the whole situation to whonever you consult on this matter.





The last thing I would suggest is to go to the authorities if his behavior gets ';realistically threatening'; such as where he actually tries to hurt you physically and makes threats to hurt you or any of the people you know because of your rejection of him. If he is a young person, you need to also consider that his life could get ruined due to his present immaturity in dealing with his feeling of rejection and if you he gets some criminal or juvenile record due to your formal complaint against him to the authorities. So, do onto others as you would want others to do onto you in the same situation.





It has nothing to do with any sun or astrological sign such as you mentioned ';ARIES MAN.'; People from all walks of life, types of sun signs could have difficulty dealing with rejection. That is a very human thing. But some have more difficulty than the others and therefore they go further with it by either being a pest, or annoying or dangerous at times to the one who rejects them. But don't also jump to call his efforts to reconcile or woo you in his own immature way perhaps as ';stalking.'; Calling one stalker is a serious attack on one's character and reputation, so be mindful and only use such strong words as last resort and not otherwise.





P.S. Try to stay away from having another relationship right now until he is out of your life if that is possible as that might even hurt him more and cause him to lash out on you and your partner. You don't want that.





Don't get me wrong that somehow I am favoring him, but I think that communication can solve many such relationship problems. And girls make the mistake of taking the harsh approach and that ususally doesn't work in such cases.How do i get rid of an ARIES MAN?!?
Aries are hard heads and love challenges.


What I've done in the past to get my 'stalkers' to back off, it talk to them privately (when talking without a crowd, it helps the other feel like they dont have to impress anyone else and be all cocky) be very straight forward with no sugar coating ';i dont like you, i will never go out with you, your making me mad with your persistance, stop';


Then my own personal touch was to get one of my good guy friends to hang on me, you dont have to kiss or anything like that, just flirt and be in eachothers company, make it clear that that guy would sooner have a chance then he ever would. With the verbal and visual it should be enough to crush even the biggest ego.


Worst comes the worst, if anyone appoaches you about likeing him, look discusted and say ';eww, never! not in a million years. I'd sooner become A-sexual'; or something to that extent....


Oh and if he text or calls, dont answer or respond. even negatively, it just feeds them into false hope.